How Parts Work Helps You Stay Grounded, Calm, and Connected in Romantic Relationships

→ Protect your sense of Self while in a relationship, reducing overwhelm and reactivity.

In relationships, it’s easy to lose track of ourselves—whether by over-giving, shutting down, or trying to control what feels uncontrollable. Loving Without Losing Yourself introduces you to a new way forward, grounded in the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. Over four sessions, you’ll discover how to recognize the parts of you that react in love, connect to the deeper feelings they protect, and anchor yourself in calm, compassionate Self-energy. You’ll leave with tools to stay grounded and connected to yourself while building intimacy with others.

“Learn to love deeply—without losing yourself along the way.”
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9/9/25
Session 1: Parts Work and Relationships Basics Identify the protectors that show up when love feels uncertain—perfectionist, pleaser, controller, avoider.
Takeaway: “I can see my protective parts without letting them run the show.”
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9/30/25
Session 2: Meeting Vulnerable Parts Explore the softer exiles—fear of rejection, shame, longing—that
often fuel our protectors’ urgency.
Takeaway: “My anxiety has roots in old wounds—it’s not my whole truth.”
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10/14/25
Session 3: Anchoring in Self-Energy
Practice staying centered and calm, even when relationship dynamics feel stormy.
Takeaway: “My Self is strong enough to guide my parts through stress.”
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10/28/25
Session 4: Building Self-Led Connection
Learn to set boundaries, express needs, and receive love without losing yourself.
Takeaway: “I can love fully while staying connected to myself.”

I’M AN INVISIBLE CITY MEMBER. HOW DO I SECURE MY FREE TICKET?

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Scott Doniger

In 2022, after a three-decade career in various marketing and business strategy positions, Scott Doniger pivoted to his lifelong calling to help people better navigate how they manage stress, anxiety, and trauma. Scott’s Chronic Stress Counseling and LifeStage Coaching practice, based in Boulder, Colorado, guides people (of any age, race, gender, or sexual orientation) stuck in chronic stress and unresolved physical illness to find a smoother way to live.
Scott’s approach to mental health support combines Parts Work, Components-Based Psychotherapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and a host of other mindfulness and somatic modalities. He conducts discussion sessions and workshops to many corporate, educational, and wellness organizations. Scott lives in Niwot, just north of Boulder, Colorado. He published his first book, Watcher, in 2023. He is an active road cyclist, hiker, and teacher and mentor to students at The University of Colorado at Boulder.
Learn more at www.scottdoniger.com

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